Friday 25th June 2010 - Married for 3011 days

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Welcome to our wedding blog! Here's where we'll hopefully keep you all up-to-date with all our latest wedding whoopsies and joys.

The Official Photos - 18/08/10 - 12:37am

The official photos are in!

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Extra Special Thanks! - 17/08/10 - 11:03pm

It was a truly collaborative effort to have our day perfect, so we've a huge list of extra special thanks! Hopefully I've not forgotten to mention anyone:

My mum for making the fruit cake for the top tier of the wedding cake, and getting the jewellery boxes and sewing all the gift bags for them.

James' mum and dad for making the entrance signs to help you all identify the venue entrance.

James' dad and aunt Kay for creating the cake topper figures of James and I.

Lizzie and Gilbert for making our wonderful heart-shaped wooden cake stand out of a heart-shaped tree stump!

Mhairi for making the bunting out of scraps and old fabric I bought from the car boot, baking the blueberry cake layer and helping me decorate the whole wedding cake and stand, co'ordinating with Isla to get the wedding cake there on the Friday morning, helping to fold origami seagulls and piece together the last few invites that went out, and for generally keeping me sane throughout!

Isla and Tom for baking the carrot cake layer on the bottom of the cake, and helping to get the cake to the venue and picking up guests from the train station prior to the ceremony.

Andy for trying to keep James happy (I know how tough that job is!) and calm and relaxed (Ditto!), for proper the sober taste buds for the food tasting, for not losing our rings and for giving an awesome speech.

Sean for ushering and again trying to keep James calm, relaxed whilst those chairs got arranged!

Jen for bringing BEER! As well as her gorgeous self of course, but mostly for the BEER! ;-)

Pete for cutting the rough sapphires, he and James found whilst panning, and sending them over to us to get made into our wedding rings.

Mike for doing the brilliant caricatures on our mugs.

Onya at Pottery for firing the transfers onto the mugs for us.

Cafe Artisan for grinding the rest of the coffee beans brought by my mum and dad, after our grinder burnt out after grinding half a bags worth.

Elise for being chief organiser and giving me a fantastic hen do! And for doing the table flags on knitting needles, the guest book, trying to buy me underwear :-) and for generally trying to keep me as fit and relaxed as possible.

Rachel for a fantastic hen do! Embarrassing and honouring James and I in photos for the walls and for learning the fine art of lacing me into my dress!

Laura for a fantastic hen do! For creating a romantic setting in our wedding suite! And for doing bits and bobs, sticking, stringing and gluing things and most of all for giving me a spotless flat to cause mayhem in the morning of the wedding! But amazingly wonderful to come back to the day after :-)

Gavin for doing such a professional job of videoing the wedding... complete with tripod! Also for helping to put together the last remaining invites and for feeding me curry 2 days before the wedding!

Emma for doing such a fantastic job of doing the bridesmaids' hair and for fixing my own, as well as doing our nails the night before. And to both Rhea and Emma for helping shift the last few things to the venue that day and the gorgeous Sandlewood Smoked Salmon all the way from Shetland that most of us got to eat... including a random dog the following day!

Julie and David for the wine! And we all know how good the wine was! Well worth the trip!

Jen for making me an amazing garter complete with pink pigs! And for helping to fold origami seagulls and finish the remainder of the invites.

David, Mark, Julia and Sarah for being brave and getting up in front of everyone to give us their readings during the ceremony.

Phil for coming up with the fab desert alternatives for those with requirements.

Trevor for helping James refine his menu, arranging all the equipment and crockery required. And for letting him use the site to put the catering into production in the days leading up to the wedding.

Martin, Steve and Stevie for helping James on the lead up to and for running a magnificent food service on the day for him. Even though the pig caused a little trouble! A tough feat to take on as I know how fussy James is! Everyone thought the food was amazing.

Mike for running the bar and front of house, for telling both James and Laura off when they kept picking up glasses, for our glassware and linen, for gorgeous looking tables, for very tasty Pimms, for having a fantastic team of ladies - Anne-Marie, Jo, Carly and Steph - who battled through even though were getting eaten alive by midges.

And finally, Dad, for giving me away and for reminding me about the bouquet when we were fortunately only 5 mins down the road... if only the flat keys were not in the other car 20 mins ahead of us! ;-)





Our Ceremony Readings - 17/08/10 - 10:12pm

Hi all,

It's been a while. In fact 53 days since we were married, and I thought I should close off a few things before we sign-off completely and send out our much deserved thank yous. Cause we didn't do Order of Services to take away, here are the readings we had during our ceremony:

My Uncle David gave us a reading from "The Prophet":


Then Almitra spoke again and said,"And what of Marriage, master?"

And he answered saying:

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.

Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together, yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

From Mark , we had a reading adapted from "Captain Corelli's Mandolin":

Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because that is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Love is the roots that grow towards each other underground, slowly and determined. And when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, you find you are no longer two, but one. One root. One tree. One love.

The White Eagle Feather blessing:

May the warm winds of the world

Gently blow through your day.

May the spirit of peace, love and sunshine

Light your path along the way.

And finally from Julia and Sarah, "Two Worms":

T'was a grand fine day when two worms did meet

And paused upon a mound of dirt to greet

‘Good day' ventured he - such a handsome worm boy

‘Good day' smiled she, behaving quite coy

‘Tis a fine day' said he ‘for a nice wormly walk'

‘May I entreat upon thee for a kind wormly talk?'

‘My worm!' replied she ‘Thou art too sweet for me,

‘Such a dashing young worm, you could have any worm you see!'

‘But nay!' he protested, ‘such could never be true'

‘I have only one eye and that eye is for you!'

‘I have searched all the garden, to find it quite bear,

No worm matches thee not here nor there'

She giggled ‘You do flatter and cause me to blush!

But is it true love or just a mere wormly crush?'

Then with heart did he woo her and describe all her charms

How he longed to hold her - if he only had arms!

So they laughed and talked and wriggled the hours away

Til the day passed to night and then back into day.

But there is more to their story, for he found tears in her eye

He said ‘ My dear but I love you...what could cause you to cry?'

‘I love you too' she did whisper ‘ But it just cannot be!'

‘For my darling worm ‘ I am the other end of thee!'

'I know that dearest,' he replied, 'or did you think me unclever?'

'It only proves, my sweet worm, that we were meant to be together!'



mmmmm yum - 25/04/10 - 10:59pm

mmmmmm yum yum yum yum yum... is all I can say about the food! :-)

Which yes, I could taste, even though I had the worst ever hangover subject of the End-of-Season Ladies Hockey Dinner which James kindly catered for us the night before. Apparently his parting words to me that night were "don't get too drunk, don't ruin your tastebuds for tommorrow". It obviously came one bottle of rose too late... as I don't really recall this. Several hours later after many jagerbombs, Garibaldis, and drunken wii tennis at Kay's flat, I stumbled through the door at 6am, woke at 9am, got on a First bus and arrived at Sodexho's kitchens in South Queensferry... early and somewhat green.

But... the food was amazing. And as I discovered a perfect cure for a hangover and therefore a perfect test to see if people could still enjoy it just as much even after a few drinks! Andy and Sara were there to test it on behalf of the sober tastebuds. So, I can safely say... without giving anything away... that you will all be fed wonderful food and I wish I could post the photos I took, but you'll just have to wait till the day!

It suddenly became oh sooo real! - 29/03/10 - 9:42pm

Firstly... NOBODY pointed out to me that once married my name could be said as 'Ros Harris'! The realisation dawned on me on Thursday when asked what name I'd like written in a programme going out in August. At first I was excited at the prospect of having my married name in print... until I realised who's name it almost sounded like. 'Can you guess what it is yet?!'

So... we went to see Ivan on Saturday. He's our Humanist celebrant who will be conducting the proceedings come June 25th. We have chosen a Humanist ceremony as it's what James and I felt was most appropriate for us in sentiment. And fortunately for us it's also legally binding in Scotland. For those of you who are unsure of Humanism here's a short description I found on the website:

"Humanism is the view that we can make sense of the world using reason, experience and shared human values and that we can live good lives without religious or superstitious beliefs. Humanists seek to make the best of the one life we have by creating meaning and purpose for ourselves. We choose to take responsibility for our actions and work with others for the common good. Humanists do not believe in a God or gods, or any other supernatural or divine entities. Humanists do not think that the universe needs a divine power outside of itself in order to have value. We, inside the universe, determine its value. We think that other people, for example, are moral concerns, not because they are made in the image of Something Else, but because of who they are in themselves."

Ivan is lovely. And he helped us to understand how the ceremony is broken into sections and what options we have, as well as what legal parts are compulsory. We can pretty much have anything we like. With the exception of two lines for legal reasons, the world of our 'aspirations' (vows) is our oyster. Now we just have to make up our minds what to say...

Easier said than done.

We love each other. But saying that out aloud infront of all of you is a totally different matter. For starters I well up when I tell my mum, my dad or even my sis that I love them. I cry at everything... angry, sad or funny. The last thing I want to do to snot my way through my lines so that they become incomprehensible to my own ears! It was bad enough when James welled up recalling the story of our engagement to Ivan. I couldn't bare to look at him for fear of welling up myself! How on earth will we get through our lines... without shoe-horning in a Rolf Harris joke, or punctuating every line with a wobbleboard, to help distract us from the emotional meaning of it all?

I don't know.

But i do know one thing... I'll think about the whale joke that got us here in the first place... and then I'll recall Ivan telling us that our whale joke story reminded him of another story about an album called 'Inside a Whale's Cock Volume One' (

That's sure to make us all smile through the tears...



The invites - 21/03/10 - 12:07am

Only 96 days to go!! And round one of our invites have been posted! Many of which were overseas... about a 50/50 split between uk and overseas. We hope that many of you will be able to make it, but of course totally understand that it's some distance and expense.

I made the invites by using 100% recycled Sheep Poo Paper and 100% recycled brown packaging paper. I drew and carved the illustration out of a piece of Japanese plywood (the picture on the home page). Using this print block and watercolour paint, I hand printed each card, using a baran to rub the dampened paper onto the block until enough force drew the watercolour paint from the wood and into the paper. The cards were then dried, creased, folded and compressed flat. The inner pages were run off a laser printer and hand stitched into the spines of the cards. A4 sheets of brown paper were origami folded into an interlocking envelope, sealed with stickers and tied up with red wool bought at the car boot. The address labels were run through a laser before using an embossing corner trim punch to make the pretty edges. We chose the Royal Mail endangered plant species stamps to finish it all off.

We hope you like yours!


Wed 5th August 2009 - 11:19pm

I have my first dress fitting a week today!!! :-) And, I find out tomorrow how my centre pieces are doing at Pottery Class.... I have no idea what colour/look to expect! Fingers-crossed they are roughly how I imagined. Then Friday, James and I open our first ever joint bank account :-D x

Mon 3rd August 2009 - 11:37pm

I found the dress! After much heart ache... not fitting into gowns cause my body shape was "misleading" and finding the gowns I liked in only size 8s... I finally hit the shops on Saturday, booked 4 appointments back to back and was determined to get it all over and done with... with a back-up appointment in Glasgow the following weekend... just in case. But what a dillema! The first store came up trumps on a beautiful dress which even had an extra £150 off that day. It was stunning but I had 3 more appointments. The second blew me away with a gorgeous flowing silk dress... but the price blew me off. £1800!!! The third shop also came up trumps with a couple of gorgeous lace numbers. I was in a dilemma, 3 shops and 3 dresses that I really liked. Not really wanting to go to the last appointment of the day in case I found another dress to throw in the mix... I of course DID find another dress. But this time I didn't want to take it off. I felt sick and teary all at once, and after changing and catching Elise welling up behind me... that was it. Both of us burst into tears knowing that FINALLY we had found THE dress. The shop assistants couldn't stop grinning at us ;-)

Mon 3rd August 2009 - 11:29pm

Well my cake decorating course was a success!!! I came back with a truly professional looking cake... even James was wowed by my hidden talents! :-) Now it's the debate as to whether I can or should do the wedding cake?! Well, I've asked my very talented cake baking friends such as Mrs Davies (the Wud Queen) for one tier, I might do one tier and maybe get mum to do another tier.... then I'll decorate... hopefully!

My cake

Mon 18th May 2009 - 1:20pm

Well I thought I might as well start blogging! Afterall I've a little to update on so far... The venue is booked, the celebrant is booked, the insurance paid and our lovely ceilidh band secured. So at least we should be able to be married to beautiful sounds! Not only that, but I've recently joined a pottery class on the back of Kirstie's Homemade Home series... and I now have a cake plate/stand in the making! With any luck, this coming July's Cake Decorating class will provide me with a cake to christen it and wonderfully creative combination come the day of our wedding! I'm very very excited :-D


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